Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Three Free Tips (Not Just for High Holy Days)

Want to improve your life but don't know how? Here are three tips, not just for these High Holy Days, but for the many days afterward as well. 

Tip #1: Be honest with yourself. If we can't be honest with ourselves, how can we be honest with anyone else? If you don't like something you've said or done, admit it to yourself. Once you've acknowledged it, do something about it (see Tip #2). 

Tip #2: Don't be afraid to say "I'm sorry," when you've said or done something that's hurt another person. And when you do apologize, make sure it's somewhere you feel safe, secure, and unthreatened; for some that's in public, for others it's in private. 

Tip #3: Accept a sincere apology. And if you're not ready to accept the apology and forgive the person, tell them so, and ask them to come back after some time has passed (whether it's a day, or a week, or longer). You can do that a second time and even a third time - just remember that Judaism and Jewish Tradition teaches us that even if the third sincere apology isn't accepted, that person can consider themselves forgiven. So, by that third sincere apology, seriously consider forgiving -- but know that you are not forced to forgive, either!

Follow these three free tips, and watch your life and your relationships improve dramatically. 

(If not, please contact me for a full refund.)

1 comment:

sarah krause said...

Attached is a link to a short yet powerful video that illustrates the points you have made. I am not associated with Wish, however they have some really great (and even funny) videos.
http://www.aish.com/h/hh/video/50012507.html?mobile=yes

Sarah Krause